This morning’s blog will be focused on introducing one of my favorite life techniques that I’ve been implementing into each and every aspect of my life, and it is so very helpful. It is hard to believe that something that is so helpful and transformative in only the best ways can be captured in just 4 words: WHAT ELSE IS TRUE?
So this is how it works:
It can be used to help with things such as physical pain, anxiety, sadness, self-doubt- I actually think this can be used in any type of distressing situation.
So it is easiest to use an example. So I will use myself, at present I am having pretty intense abdominal cramps. So if I wanted to use the What Else is New technique it would look like this:
I am having really bad that BUT what else is true? I am cuddling with my kitties, I am listening to some of my favorite music, I am writing a blog for my dream business, I am wearing a new and very special owl necklace a best friend gave to me yesterday. ALL of the above aspects of my ‘right now’ are true. However, what we focus on becomes louder and louder. So while this technique doesn’t technically take the discomfort away per say, it definitely helps to turn the volume down which can be just as beneficial.
I’ll do another example:
I haven’t written a blog in several days and it could be easy to get in the self-teardown cycle. But what else is true? I have been dealing with some things in my personal life. I’ve been helping friends who are dealing with major things in their lives. I have had several appointments with doctors and business consultants, so while i haven’t had a blog post published in a while, I have been getting other things done. So using this technique doesn’t change the fact that I haven’t published in a while but it helps me to realize that that fact alone doesn’t mean i haven’t been doing anything.
I am excited about the seemingly countless ramifications this simple question and process can have in our lives. I see it also having equally transformative effects when dealing with guilt in caregiving. I would like to throw a big shoutout to an amazing therapist that I began seeing shortly after my dad passed away nearly 3 years ago and this is just one of the amazing tools she has taught me.
For example:
Let’s say that if I was a caregiver right now, taking care of my aging father and he had a fall that resulted in a hospital stay for him. I could immediately go to the place of “I’m not good enough” shame, intuiting that only should i have been better that he wouldn’t have fallen. Well, what else is true here? I am making sure my dad is eating enough and nutritious food each day. I am making his environment clean and safe. I am working hard on coordinating his medicine and other medical needs and care. I am doing all I can to ensure he is taken care of in every way in which we need care in order to thrive. This does not take away the unfortunate fact that my father has had a fall and has to stay in the hospital to recover but it does acknowledge the great care I do provide. Further, it helps me to realize that I cannot control every aspect of this situation and that it isn't my fault.
The only aspect of blogging that I wish was a little better is I wish they were a little more interactive. I am hoping that the nature of this blogpost in particular will garner some conversation about things people experience this when they incorporate it into their lives.
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